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PREGNANCY, BIRTH & BABY’S

  • MENTAL HEALTH, MOTHERHOOD, PREGNANCY, BIRTH & BABY'S, THOUGHT-PROVOKING, USEFUL

    DEALING WITH SCARY, INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS

    Have you ever had the urge to jump in front of a train as it goes through the station? Or stood at the top of the stairs and wonder what would happen if you dropped your baby? These thoughts sound extreme and disturbing, but as Dr Caroline Boyd explains, they're actually incredibly common. But because of the shame we feel around them, we're silenced. And actually, what we really need to do is talk about them, which can bring huge relief…

  • MOTHERHOOD, PREGNANCY, BIRTH & BABY'S

    PLANNING YOUR BIRTH IN A PANDEMIC

    This week's list comes from Rebecca Trueman who is an antenatal and hypnobirthing teacher, and it's full of suggestions about what you can do to make your birth go a little smoother. With This Is Going To Hurt currently on TV it seemed like a good time to reflect on just how overstretched and understaffed maternity services are. As Rebecca says, it's easy to focus on the bad bits and the worry, and so her list offers some useful advice for planning a birth during a pandemic - and beyond. …

  • MOTHERHOOD, PREGNANCY, BIRTH & BABY'S

    OVERWHELMED & PREGNANT

    In this list, the writer, who wishes to remain anonymous, talks about a side of pregnancy we don't often hear about. It's always expected that people should feel happy, grateful and excited, but what happens if that's not the case? As this writer explains, she found herself floored with anxiety, scared and wondering how on earth she was going to care for a baby that would change her life so completely and permanently…

  • HEALTH, MOTHERHOOD, PREGNANCY, BIRTH & BABY'S

    MY SON’S AUTISM DIAGNOSIS

    Before having children, you often paint a picture of what you expect life to look like with your new family. But sometimes, that gets turned inside out. When Nicola Jeffrey's son was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder, she suddenly found herself in the unknown; feeling lost, anxious and helpless. But over time, Nicola learned to let go of worrying about the future. She realised autism wasn't something that needed to be 'fixed' and that her son, Scott, is exactly who he is supposed to be.…

  • HEALTH, PREGNANCY, BIRTH & BABY'S

    HYPEREMESIS GRAVIDARIUM: HOW LOSING CONTROL MEANT FINDING MYSELF

    How is it that some people breeze through pregnancy while others have the most horrendous time? I have a fear of being sick so HG is actually one of my worst nightmares, and reading Laura Tweedale's list brought me out in cold sweats. Hyperemesis Gravidarum is completely and utterly deliberating. It's all you can do to survive each day. Plus, nobody can tell you when it's going to end…

  • BODY IMAGE, EMOTIONAL, MENTAL HEALTH, PREGNANCY, BIRTH & BABY'S

    BODY DYSMORPHIC DISORDER

    This one, by Jen Spurr really resonated with me. Having had a a very up and down relationship with my own body for most of my life, I'm now in a good place but as Jen explains, it's taken an awful lot of work to get there. Jen can't remember a time when she didn't have BDD, and she was only able to start healing when she became a mum. She just knew she didn't want to pass these feelings onto her daughters, she wanted to break the cycle. …

  • HEALTH, MENTAL HEALTH, PREGNANCY, BIRTH & BABY'S, THOUGHT-PROVOKING

    THE DAY I GAVE BIRTH IN MY BATHROOM

    After the birth of my first baby, I felt completely traumatised and couldn't get the horror out of my head. So when Emily Neumann emailed about suffering birth trauma, I could absolutely identify with those feelings of utter terror, anxiety and aloneness. Emily's waters broke early and everything happened so quickly, she ended up giving birth on her toilet at home. What she went through was incredibly traumatic, and the flashbacks she's had have been unbearable…